Help for Young People

There seems to be little online mental health help for young people. This is why this page seeks to provide help for those who may be having a tough time.

Problems at School

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

School can be an enjoyable place, but some young people find it hard. If you are finding school difficult you can get help. 

Problems at School 

Many people worry about the things that happen at school now and again. They can experience difficulties or have to deal with problems at school.

Some of the problems people worry about include:

  • Bullying
  • Difficult relationships with friends
  • Exam stress
  • Finding schoolwork hard

  • Problems concentrating, especially if the class is noisy 
  • Problems at home 
  • Returning to school after you have been expelled, suspended, or excluded
  • Returning to school if you’ve had time off because of mental or physical health concerns
  • Struggling with ADHD, autism, dyslexia, or dyspraxia
  • Struggling with lunchtime, especially if you have eating problems

If you experience any of these problems, they could affect how you feel at school and at home. The good news is that you are not alone. There is support for school children in Brayton and the surrounding areas. There are people who will listen to you and support you during this tough time. 

How School Problems can Affect your Mental Health

If you are having problems at school, you could find it difficult to get ready in the mornings. you might also:

  • Avoid meeting your friends or talking to them at lunch
  • Choose not to share any ideas during class
  • Do less well at school because you find it hard to concentrate
  • Experience stomach aches or headaches when you think about school
  • Feel angry or stressed at things that did not use to make you feel this way
  • Feel anxious while you’re on your way to school
  • Feel less confident in your work or in yourself 

If you are experiencing any of the above points you may not want to go to school. You might even refuse to attend your lessons. Some people might even play truant. 

Remember, you will not always feel this way about going to school. Things can start to get better. If the problems you’re experiencing affect your day-to-day life, please tell someone you can trust. With the right support, you can work through the difficulties you are having. 

Tell a teacher or your parents or carers. Telling a teacher will help them to deal with the issue. Your school might have a particular way of helping students

What you can do 

Try to spend more time with people that you feel comfortable with. Spending time with other people outside school can help. They can remind you that people do care about you. 

If you have autism, dyslexia, dyspraxia or any other specific difficulties, you can get support. Your school probably has a special needs coordinator (SENCO). They can make sure you get the support you need during lessons. 

If you think you have a mental health condition or you’re stressed, please talk to your GP. They can help you to understand whether you need counselling, therapy, or another type of support. 

Other Sources of Help

Childline: 0800 1111 (open 9am until midnight throughout the year)

The Mix: 0808 808 4994 (open 4pm until 11pm, every day)

YoungMinds Crisis Messenger: Text YM to 85258 (open all day, every day)

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline. 

 

 

Dealing Grief and Loss

When someone who was closed to you has died, it’s completely natural to feel sad, worried, or depressed. There is no right way to feel, and everyone reacts differently. However, some people can find it hard to cope with grief and loss. The good news is there is support out there. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

What Exactly is Grief?

When you lose someone you know, it can be hard. Whether you’ve lost a friend, relative, or even a pet, you could feel a wide range of emotions. It’s perfectly normal to experience grief. Grief isn’t just an emotional response, it’s also a mental, social, and physical response.

You could be grieving because:

  • A family member has died
  • A friend or someone you know has died 
  • A pet has died or is lost
  • Someone you know took their own life 
  • Someone close to you is seriously ill
  • A relationship has changed 
  • Someone close to you moved away or won’t be in your life quite as much 

Give yourself the time and space you need to grieve. It can take time to come to terms with death or someone not being in your life anymore or quite as much.  

How We Grieve 

Everyone deals with grief differently. Some people can feel depressed, sad, or angry. Some people might even be relieved or not feel anything at all. 

Different cultures and people’s beliefs can have an impact on how they deal with grief. Your local community or your own family might deal with grief in a different way to others. We all have our own ways of dealing with grief. There is no right or wrong way to deal with it. Some people might even have delayed grief, which means they won’t feel anything for a while. Again, this is perfectly normal. 

Feelings Associated with Grief 

You might experience some of the following feelings if you’re dealing with grief and loss:

  • Abandonment
  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Concern about your health or that of others
  • Depression
  • Fear
  • Guilt
  • Numbness (Or nothing)
  • Panic
  • Relief
  • Sadness
  • Shock

Working Through Grief

It can take time for everyone to deal with grief. You could be surprised to feel sad when you’re not expecting to feel this emotion. This is normal, and most of us can work through grief with the support of others. 

If you are struggling with grief or you’re finding life hard, please talk to someone. Tell someone you can trust such as a friend or a family member. You can also talk to your GP and ask for support. There’s grief support in Barlby and the surrounding areas, so please ask for help if you’re struggling. 

It is perfectly normal to feel sad or even guilty. If you stop feeling sad or guilty, please know that it does not mean you don’t care. You can move on with your life. It’s ok to do this and it does not mean that you don’t care about the person you have lost or are grieving for. 

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

 

Help for Those Who Feel Lonely

Many of us feel lonely now and again, and it can be hard to cope with. Whether you’ve just moved house, a relationship has ended, or you cannot see your friends because of lockdown, it’s normal for people to feel isolated. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Social media can make people feel lonely, especially if they’re being bullied or see people leading ‘perfect’ lives. It can seem as though everyone is surrounded by those they love, and that they’re doing well in their lives. 

You might also start feeling lonely:

  • If you go to a new school, start university, or find a job.
  • If someone close to you has died or moved away.
  • If you are no longer in a relationship with or friends with someone who is important to you.
  • If you can’t do the things that you see other people doing.
  • If you are struggling with your gender identity or sexuality.
  • If you feel different from those around you or your friends.
  • If you are going through something that your friends cannot relate to.

It can be hard to cope with loneliness. In some circumstances, it can even affect your mental health. You might start to feel depressed, or have low self-esteem. 

If you struggle with your mental health, it can be hard to interact with people in the way that you’re used to. 

This can make you feel even more isolated. However, there are a few things you can do to feel better. 

How to Stop Feeling Lonely 

Whether you’re suffering from loneliness in Selby, Brayton, Barlby, or elsewhere, there are ways to stop feeling lonely. Here’s how: 

  • Do things you enjoy – Doing things you enjoy can help you to feel less alone. Be kind to yourself so you start to feel more confident. It is perfectly ok for you to spend time on yourself, doing what you love. 
  • Express how you’re feeling – Tell someone how you feel. If you don’t have anyone to talk to, keep a journal. This can help you to track your mood. You don’t have to keep a journal to express yourself, you could paint, draw, make something, or play sports. Do whatever it takes for you to express how you’re feeling in a safe way. 
  • Consider joining a club – Why not consider joining a club? You don’t need to be really good at something to give it a try. Join an online club if you wish to. Joining a club can help you to meet new people while you take up your new hobby. 

  • Consider volunteering – Volunteering is a great way to pick up new skills while meeting new people. 
  • Ask for help if you’re struggling – If you’re struggling with loneliness you could ask for help. Talk to someone you can trust such as a member of your family, or a friend. You might also want to consider talking to a teacher or a friend of your family. Did you know that your GP can also offer you support? 

Other Sources of Help

Childline: 0800 1111 (open 9am until midnight throughout the year)

The Mix: 0808 808 4994 (open 4pm until 11pm, every day)

YoungMinds Crisis Messenger: Text YM to 85258 (open all day, every day)

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

 

What are Eating Problems?

We all eat differently, but if eating is taking over your life, you could have an eating problem. 

Many people eat a lot in one day and are not very hungry the next. Some people go through phases of eating healthily and on other occasions they eat less healthily. However, this does not mean that they have an eating problem. 

If you control what you eat or how much you eat, you could have an eating problem. If you feel the urge to eat and then make yourself sick, you could also have an eating problem. 

You are not alone. There is a lot of support out there. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Eating problems (Also known as “eating disorders”) are very common. They can affect anyone with any lifestyle and any body shape. 

What Causes Eating Problems?

There are multiple causes of eating problems. For example, you might have developed an eating problem when some parts of your life aren’t going well. This can be the case if you’re not feeling in control or you’re stressed or worried about something. 

The images that we see in the media and online can make us all feel pressured to look a certain way. Unfortunately, this look might not be healthy.

 

The Symptoms of Eating Problems 

Below are some symptoms of eating problems which you might be experiencing or taking to extreme levels: 

  • Being afraid of putting on weight
  • Being secretive about eating
  • Being secretive about food or being preoccupied with food
  • Dramatic weight gain or loss
  • Eating when you’re not hungry
  • Failing to enjoy eating socially
  • Feeling self-conscious when you eat in front of others
  • Leaving the table quickly to hide food or be sick
  • Losing your appetite
  • Making yourself sick
  • Obsessing about your body 
  • Only allowing yourself to eat certain types of food or following fad diets

 

If you think that some of the above symptoms are affecting your daily or most days, you should talk to someone. Please note, everyone’s experiences of eating problems are different. 

While being able to control what you eat or how much you eat might make you seem more in control, it can lead to serious problems. If you are worried, please ask for help. 

Here’s a link to a website that can help you get support: https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/support-services/helplines

Some eating problems can result in mental health conditions. These conditions will need to be diagnosed and treated. In some cases, and without the right support and treatment, they can cause death. This is why it is essential you ask for help.

Where to Get Help

For the best support for eating problems in Barlby or anywhere, use the above link. 

You could also:

  • Talk to your GP – Your GP is a trusted professional who can help you. They could suggest some therapies that could help you to understand what has triggered your eating problems. 
  • Talk to someone you can trust – It can be hard telling someone how you’re feeling. However, talking about it can be the first step to recovery. 

Other Sources of Help

Childline: 0800 1111 (open 9am until midnight throughout the year)

The Mix: 0808 808 4994 (open 4pm until 11pm, every day)

YoungMinds Crisis Messenger: Text YM to 85258 (open all day, every day)

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

What is Child Abuse?

Abuse is wrong. It can be hard to talk about it, but you are never alone. If you are worried about being abused there is help. You don’t need to try to deal with it on your own. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

What Exactly is Abuse?

There are 5 different types of child abuse:

  • Child sexual abuse – This involves being touched where you should not be touched. It also involves being forced to take part in any sexual activity. 
  • Emotional or mental abuse – This type of abuse can involve constantly being criticised. It can also involve being ignored or being badly treated.
  • Neglect – This type of abuse involves not being kept healthy and not being looked after. 
  • Physical abuse – This involves you being hurt by another person and for no reason. 
  • Verbal abuse – This type of abuse involves some writing, shouting, or saying horrible things. 

Abuse can often be about power. The person who abuses you might be using their power to get you to do things that you don’t want to do.

Abuse can be quite hurtful, either physically or mentally. Sexual abuse can include being touched or kissed or even being forced to have sex when you don’t want to. This type of abuse is often carried out by someone who is older than you. 

Who is an Abuser?

Abuse can be carried out by someone you know. Alternatively, it could be carried out by a stranger. If someone you know is abusing you, it can be hard to talk about it. If your family or friends do not know that you’re being abused, they might think it’s safe for you to be with this person. This is why it’s very important that you tell someone. 

If you tell someone, they can help it to stop. Remember, abuse is always wrong. 

Whether you are looking for help for abuse in Brayton, for example, or anywhere else, there is help available. The sooner you ask for help, the sooner the abuse can stop. 

Why Getting Help is Important 

Getting help is so important. Abuse is always wrong and it must be stopped. Abuse can affect the rest of your life.

When you speak out about abuse, it means you are less likely to have any problems later: 

If you have been abused you might:

  • Be cautious of adults
  • Be emotional or irritable 
  • Be more likely to self-harm
  • Find it hard to do well at school or college
  • Find it very hard to trust people 
  • Have difficulty concentrating
  • Have difficulty developing relationships
  • Have difficulty having sexual relationships when you’re older 
  • Have low self-esteem and become anxious or depressed

If you experience one or more of the above issues, it does not necessarily mean that you were or are being abused. The above problems can be caused by a range of things. 

If you know that you have suffered from any type of abuse, please speak to your doctor. They will be able to tell if you are at risk of developing any of the above problems, and they can help you. 

Where to Find Help 

You have to tell someone about the abuse. Tell your family first. If the abuser is a member of your family or it’s someone your family knows you can always speak to your doctor or a teacher. Your doctor will help you, even if they know this person. They also have to keep what you tell them private from the abuser. 

If you suspect that a child is being abused, you can find more information about what to do here.

You can also contact the following organisations: 

Childline: 0800 1111 (open 9 am until midnight throughout the year)

The Mix: 0808 808 4994 (open 4 pm until 11 pm, every day)

YoungMinds Crisis Messenger: Text YM to 85258 (open all day, every day)

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

 

Anger

We all feel angry from time to time, it’s a normal emotion and there’s usually a good reason to feel angry.  Some people have uncontrollable anger, and it can be harmful. However, they can learn to manage it. 

Anger can become an issue if it is expressed through destructive or unhelpful behaviour. This behaviour can be directed towards other people or yourself. Anger can even make someone more prone to suffering from mental health concerns such as anxiety or depression. Alternatively, it can make existing mental health concerns worse. 

We offer mental health support for Selby, Brayton, and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

You might need some support if you’re feeling angry and you do some or all of the following things:

  • Shout at people 
  • Physically hurt others
  • Lose control
  • Break things
  • Get into trouble at school or work
  • Spend time with people who tend to get you into trouble 
  • Constantly end relationships

Why Do You Feel Angry?

You might feel angry because you feel frustrated or powerless. You might have fallen out with a friend or have problems at school or home. Some people feel angry because they feel misunderstood, confused, or stressed. You could also be feeling angry because something happened to you in the past, such as abuse or neglect.

Understanding what triggers your anger can help you to begin to find the cause. It can also help you find a way to make things better for you. 

Sources of Help 

Childline: 0800 1111 (open 9am until midnight throughout the year)

The Mix: 0808 808 4994 (open 4pm until 11pm, every day)

YoungMinds Crisis Messenger: Text YM to 85258 (open all day, every day)

 

We offer mental health support for Selby, Brayton, and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Bullying

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call?

Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

More than one million young people in the UK are affected by bullying every year. Bullying involves someone physically or verbally abusing you. 

There are different types of bullying such as:

  • Cyberbullying – this can include targeting you online, occasionally anonymously
  • Homophobic bullying – this can be based on your sexual orientation
  • Racist bullying – this can be because of the colour of your skin
  • Religious bullying – due to your faith or beliefs
  • Sexist bullying – due to you being the opposite sex
  • Sizeist bullying – this refers to your body size
  • and bullying you simply because you are different

Bullying can last a long time, or it can happen just once or twice. Anyone can be bullied. 

How Bullying Affects People 

Bullying can make people feel worthless, alone, isolated, angry, and anxious. It can also have a large impact on their self-confidence. You might experience a few of these feelings or all of them. 

Some people start to develop anxiety, depression, and eating problems. They may even begin to self-harm or start using drugs or alcohol. If you are dealing with any of these issues, please speak to your GP as soon as you can. Your GP will keep everything you say confidential. 

It is not your fault that you are being bullied.

Things can get a lot better. 

How to Get Help 

Online Bullying – Tell someone you can trust, such as a parent, a carer or one of your teachers. Social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram allow you to report abusive posts and content. Abuse can also be reported to the Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre

Please make sure that you keep reporting the bullying. Do this until the bullying stops. It might not stop completely the first time that you tell your parents, carers, or teachers. If the bullying continues, please tell them again.

You are important. Do not put up with this. No-one deserves to get bullied. 

Other Sources of Help 

Childline: 0800 1111 (open 9am until midnight throughout the year)

The Mix: 0808 808 4994 (open 4pm until 11pm, every day)

YoungMinds Crisis Messenger: Text YM to 85258 (open all day, every day)

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk

Covid and Mental Health

If you’re anxious or worried about the impact of COVID on your mental health, you’re not alone. The pandemic has created a lot of uncertainty for all of us. It’s, therefore, only natural that our mental health will be affected. No matter what you’re feeling about the pandemic, your feelings are valid. With the right support, we can all get through this. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

If You’re Feeling Anxious 

As humans, we’re made to feel anxious when something is troubling us. It’s part of the fight-flight-freeze response that we all have. In some situations, this response can keep us alive. However, if you’re feeling anxious all the time, it’s worth finding out what is causing it. 

Talking to your GP can prove helpful. They can even suggest treatment if they think it’s necessary. In addition to this, your GP can set up regular appointments so they can see how you are from time to time. 

If You’re Struggling with Social Distancing and Self-isolation

This time last year no-one in the UK was uttering the words “social distancing”. It’s not something we’d thought about. The same can be said for self-isolation. 

Here’s a blog post from October 2020 about how we can all make our day-to-day lives a little easier.

How to Look After Your Mental Health 

Practice Gratitude

Some people have found that practising gratitude has helped their mental health. You don’t have to make a big deal about practising gratitude. At the start of each day, you could think of 3-5 things that you’re grateful for. Write these things down, type them into your phone, or think about them. When you do this every day, it allows you to feel more positive. It also helps you to appreciate what you have. 

Keep a Journal 

Keeping a journal is another way to look after your mental health. Try to write a half a page to a full page a day. Write down what’s making you happy, the day’s events, or what you’re worried about. Sometimes just writing your worries down can make things seem better. 

You can personalise your journal in any way you like. Fill it with drawings, quotes, or stickers. You don’t have to share the contents of your journal with anyone. However, if you choose to, make sure it’s someone you can completely trust. 

We’re all worried about Coronavirus and the impact it’s having on our lives. Thankfully, there’s now a vaccine which means we might not have to stay at home all year. Only time will tell. There are some useful tips on the NHS website that could prove useful if you’re worried about Coronavirus. 

The impact of Coronavirus in Selby is clear when you gaze out your window or find ourselves social distancing when occasionally buying essentials. However, if you’re finding things tough, you don’t have to deal with your feelings on your own. 

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk