Dealing Grief and Loss

When someone who was closed to you has died, it's completely natural to feel sad, worried, or depressed. There is no right way to feel, and everyone reacts differently. However, some people can find it hard to cope with grief and loss. The good news is there is...

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Money and Mental Health

Many of us have financial concerns from time to time, however, the pandemic has caused a lot of money worries. If you are struggling with money, it might have affected your mental health.  Being concerned about your finances does not necessarily mean you are anxious...

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Eating Disorders Awareness Week

This week is Eating Disorders Awareness Week. From March 1st to the 7th, many charities and organisations campaign to highlight and help people understand binge eating disorder. This is the least understood eating disorder, but it can cause a lot of distress.  We...

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Self-injury Awareness Day

The 1st of March is Self-injury Awareness Day. On this day, organisations and charities around the globe raise awareness about self-injury.  Awareness can lead to a greater understanding of why a person deliberately injures themselves. It also works towards reducing...

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Getting Help for Alcohol Addiction

Admitting that you have a problem with alcohol is the first step towards getting help. These days, there's a lot more awareness about alcoholism. Society seems to be more aware that those who have struggles need someone to be kind and offer support.  If you are...

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Who We Are

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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What is Psychotherapy?

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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Help with Tourette’s Syndrome

Tourette's Syndrome is a condition that causes someone to make involuntary movements and sounds. These movements and sounds are known as tics.  The syndrome typically starts in childhood. However, tics and other symptoms tend to improve or disappear after a few...

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Getting the Support You Need

If you have mental health concerns there's no harm in asking for help. Asking for help means you’re taking the first step towards wellness.  You might be tempted to deal with your problems on your own, particularly if you don't know who to turn to. However, there is a...

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Coronavirus & Mental Health

If you’re worried about the impact that COVID is having on your mental health, you’re not alone. The pandemic has placed a lot of uncertainty in our lives. It’s only natural that many people are feeling anxious, numb, or depressed. Regardless of what you are feeling...

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Consenting to Treatment

If you were to consent to treatment, it would mean that you have given permission for a medical test, treatment, or examination. Your consent is needed regardless of the examination or procedure etc that you have.  The principle of consent is an important part of this...

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What is Stockholm Syndrome?

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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What is Narcolepsy?

Narcolepsy is a sleep disorder which affects the sufferer's nervous system. This can cause such abnormal sleep that it has the ability to affect their day-to-day life.  We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our...

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What is Depression?

Many people feel slightly down now and again. However, we can feel better a little while later. If you feel down or low much of the time, it's possible that you could be depressed.  Depression is an illness that should be taken very seriously. This is because it can...

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Help for Those Who Feel Lonely

Many of us feel lonely now and again, and it can be hard to cope with. Whether you've just moved house, a relationship has ended, or you cannot see your friends because of lockdown, it's normal for people to feel isolated.  We offer mental health support for Selby and...

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5 Ways to Talk to a Mate About Mental Health

We've all done it. We've all said we're fine when we're not. With approximately 1 in 4 people experiencing mental health issues, if a friend tells you they're fine, chances are they won't be.  If you really want to know how your friend is, ask them again. Asking a...

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What is Downs Syndrome?

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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Valentine’s Day and Your Mental Health

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder: What is it?

Narcissistic personality disorder is a disorder whereby someone has an inflated opinion of themselves. In addition to this, they have often have an intense desire or need for the attention and admiration of other people.  Those with this personality disorder tend to...

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What is Parkinson’s Disease?

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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Help with Generalised Anxiety Disorder

We all tend to feel anxious from time to time. Many people feel anxious because they have a job interview or they have an exam coming up. It's normal to feel anxious at times such as these.  However, some people find it difficult to control their concerns and worries....

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What are Eating Problems?

We all eat differently, but if eating is taking over your life, you could have an eating problem.  Many people eat a lot in one day and are not very hungry the next. Some people go through phases of eating healthily and on other occasions they eat less healthily....

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Talking Over a Cuppa

If you are struggling with your mental health, you're not alone. Many of us struggle with mental health concerns every day. Unfortunately, the pandemic is unlikely to have helped.  The good news is that help is out there. If you are feeling bad, why not talk to...

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How to Get Support

If you often feel anxious, depressed, or overwhelmed, there is support out there. You don't need to have a mental health crisis before you ask for support. When you ask for support, you're taking those all-important steps to look after yourself.  It is always ok to...

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Autism Spectrum Disorder

Those with autism might find it hard to interact with and communicate with others. They might get upset or anxious about being in unfamiliar places or social events. In addition to this, those who are autistic might have difficulty understanding how other people feel...

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Sleep Disorders

There is a very close relationship between mental health and sleep. If you have a mental health condition, it can affect how you sleep. In addition to this, poor sleep can negatively impact your mental health.  We offer mental health support for Selby and the...

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What is Child Abuse?

Abuse is wrong. It can be hard to talk about it, but you are never alone. If you are worried about being abused there is help. You don't need to try to deal with it on your own.  We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a...

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What is Schizoaffective Disorder?

Schizoaffective disorder is a mental health condition whereby the symptoms of mood disorders and psychotic disorders are present. They can be present during a single episode or within a few weeks of each other.  "Schizo" refers to symptoms of psychosis, "affective"...

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What is Anxiety?

Most of us can feel anxious now and again. Anxiety is actually a normal response to perceived threats. In some cases, anxiety can save your life. However, it can be a problem if it impacts your daily life.  Anxiety could be an issue if you: Find it difficult to...

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Your Health and Social Care Rights

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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What is Agoraphobia?

Many people are anxious about going outside thanks, to the pandemic. At the time of writing, it's been ten months since the 1st lockdown, and we're used to being told to stay indoors. As a result, more people are likely to be suffering from agoraphobia.  We offer...

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Migrating and Mental Health

Many people consider moving home, getting divorced, and dealing with death to be the most stressful things in life. However, studies have shown that moving to another country is incredibly challenging.  The psychological impact of moving to another country and a...

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Are You Safe at Home?

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone. This type of abuse includes emotional, sexual, and physical abuse. Men, women, and children can be victims of domestic abuse.  If you are worried that someone will notice you have visited this page, please click here. You will be...

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Anger

We all feel angry from time to time, it's a normal emotion and there's usually a good reason to feel angry.  Some people have uncontrollable anger, and it can be harmful. However, they can learn to manage it.  Anger can become an issue if it is expressed through...

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What is Tardive Dyskinesia?

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call The Big Communi-tea on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer...

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The Effects of Flooding on Mental Health

The recent heavy rain has resulted in a lot of flooding around the country. Understandably, the flooding has caused a lot of stress. Many people have had to leave their homes or are in fear of the floodwaters reaching their homes.  When people are impacted by floods...

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What is Hoarding Disorder?

Hoarding involves saving or acquiring a lot of things irrespective of their value. Someone who hoards might find it hard to decide what they should keep or what they should get rid of. They might also have very strong positive feelings when they get more things....

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Bullying

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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What is Body Dysmorphic Disorder?

Body dysmorphic disorder is an anxiety disorder that is related to the individual's body image. Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) can vary in its severity day by day and person to person. Some people are afraid to be seen in public or be around other people because of...

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What are Dissociative Disorders?

Dissociative disorders are conditions that can cause psychological and physical problems. Some dissociative disorders don't last very long. However, they are all likely to be caused by a traumatic event. They tend to resolve in a matter of months, if not weeks. Other...

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Covid and Mental Health

If you're anxious or worried about the impact of COVID on your mental health, you're not alone. The pandemic has created a lot of uncertainty for all of us. It's, therefore, only natural that our mental health will be affected. No matter what you're feeling about the...

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What is Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder?

Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is a severe type of premenstrual syndrome. It can cause both physical and emotional symptoms 7 to 14 days before the start of a period. Also known as "Severe PMS" PMDD can have a huge impact on the suffer's life. Socialising,...

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What are Personality Disorders?

Someone who has a personality disorder tends to feel, think, relate or behave differently to what we would call "average" people. Someone with a personality disorder could have difficulty controlling their emotions. they could also have a disturbed way of thinking....

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Selby FoodBank

Many of us are facing financial difficulties, and these difficulties can result in food poverty. Too many people are going hungry because they simply don't have enough money for food. If this is something you're dealing with Selby foodbank could help you. Foodbanks...

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What is Gender Dysphoria?

Gender dysphoria is a term that is used to describe how unhappy someone may feel about their mismatched gender identity and their biological sex. This unhappiness can be so intense that it could lead to anxiety and depression. In addition to this, a person's daily...

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What is Talking Therapy?

Talking therapies are a type of psychological treatment. This type of treatment is often used by people who are suffering from depression, anxiety, and stress. There are different types of talking therapy but each one of them involves a trained therapist. We offer...

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How to Talk to Your Doctor

If you have decided to speak to your doctor about your mental health you could be feeling anxious. While most of us are used to talking about our physical health, we might not be used to talking about our mental health. The good news is that your doctor is used to...

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What is Good Mental Health?

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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Postpartum Psychosis

While postpartum psychosis is a rare mental health condition it can be quite serious. This condition which is also known as "puerperal psychosis". can develop after someone has given birth. Postpartum psychosis can leave the sufferer feeling frightened and...

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New Year Pressure

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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The Haven in York, Offering Face-to-Face Support

The Haven in York is a visionary support service offering out-of-hours mental health support for those aged 18+ in the York Area. Situated at 30 Clarence Street, The Haven is a non-clinical talking and signposting service. This excellent service provides a safe space...

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What is Self-Esteem?

Most of us have times when we don't feel very confident or very good about ourselves. Unfortunately, there are people whose self-esteem is so low that it becomes a long-term issue. Their self-esteem can be so low that it has a negative effect on their daily lives and...

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Who We Are

We offer mental health support for Selby and surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399.If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to...

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Christmas Doesn’t Have to be Perfect

As you're no doubt aware, it's going to be Christmas in just a few days. The thought of Christmas could bring with it feelings of joy, but many people also experience stress and anxiety. This is because there is a lot of pressure on people to have the perfect...

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Coping with Loneliness

Many people feel lonely from time to time. Some people find it affects them a great deal, others less so. If you find that loneliness is having an effect on your life there are some things you can do.  There is support available if you are finding it hard to cope with...

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What To Do If You’re Feeling Anxious

We all feel anxious from time to time, it's a normal response to certain situations. However, anxiety can become a problem if it impacts your daily life.  Anxiety can be a problem if you: Find it difficult or impossible to go about your day-to-day life Find it...

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Preparing for & Getting Through Christmas

Christmas is just around the corner. Some people might be looking forward to celebrating Christmas, others might find it quite challenging. Whether you love it or loathe this time of year, it's important that you feel able to manage your mental health.  Are you...

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Mental Health in the Workplace

Many people suffer from mental health concerns when they are at work. In fact, it's thought that as much as 17% of workers experience mental health concerns including anxiety and depression.  However, talking about how you feel at work might not seem like the right...

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Talk Over A Cup Of Tea

Are you struggling with mental health issues? Are you concerned about someone you love? Has the lockdown left you feeling out of touch? Why not talk over a cup of tea? You don't have to physically meet up with anyone, you can talk virtually and over a cup of tea (or...

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Covid and Anxiety About The Future

Our lives have changed quite dramatically this year, and many of us are concerned about the future. Many people such as students are finding that their plans for the future have been put on hold.  It's understandable then, that people are feeling increasingly anxious....

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We’re In The Selby Times

Here at The Big Communi-tea, we are proud to be on the front page of the Selby Times. We had the privilege of assisting a local gentleman who is vulnerable and in need of support.  John, our charity's coordinator highlighted his concern for the man's safety. After...

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Can We Help You?

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be...

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Why Do people Self-harm?

It can be hard to talk about self-harm but it is a very common problem. Self-harm is often experienced by those who are struggling with their mental health. When someone self-harms, they hurt themselves on purpose. In some cases, harming yourself might feel like the...

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Finding Mental Health Support

If you would like to have some mental health support, you will be pleased to know there is support out there. Local charities, community groups, and your doctor can help you.  Knowing where you should start looking is not always easy. However, your doctor could be...

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Help With Drug Addiction

Many people who are struggling with trauma or other difficulties turn to drugs. This is because the effect of the drugs they take can make them feel better. In some cases, the drugs can make them forget whatever has been troubling them. Other people take drugs just to...

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The Festive Season is Approaching

The festive season is fast approaching. While this time of year can be a celebration for some, it can also be quite challenging. No matter what this time of year means to you, it's vital that you feel you can manage your mental health. Are you worried about spending...

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What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is known as a "Talking therapy". The way that we feel and think, how our bodies feel, and what we do is thought to be connected. The thinking behind CBT is that if we can change just one of these things, what we do, for example, we...

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Help With Alcohol Addiction

Did you know that understanding you have a problem with alcohol is the first step to getting the help you need?  You might need help with alcohol if you often feel you need to drink it. You might get into trouble because you have been drinking, or you might think that...

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Hearing Voices

Hearing voices is often a sign of mental illness, however, not everyone that hears voices is thought to be unwell. Approximately 10% of the population hear voices, otherwise known as 'auditory hallucinations'. Voices can say negative or positive things and they can be...

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Admitting you Need Help with Mental Health

Mental health problems can creep up on you. They can begin with a few small changes in the way you feel and think and in your behaviour. Thought to affect approximately 25% of the population at any point in their life, many people ask for help so they can potentially...

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Consenting To Treatment

When someone consents to treatment it means they have given permission for a medical examination, test or treatment. A patient's consent is required no matter what procedure or examination etc that they have.  The whole principle of consent is a vitally important part...

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Help With Panic Disorder

If you have regular attacks of fear of panic you could have panic disorder. This is an anxiety disorder that can be quite frightening. Some people find themselves in a vicious circle, they become afraid of being afraid and they can feel anxious most of the time. While...

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Worried about the lockdown? We’re Here For You

Once again we have found ourselves in lockdown. At the time of writing, we're just 2 days into the 2nd lockdown that we're told is ending in early December.  If you're feeling anxious, you're not alone. This is a perfectly reasonable emotion to be feeling right now....

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Communi-tea, Founded By An Award Winner

In 2019, the Royal College of Psychiatrists held their RCPsych Awards which celebrates the best individuals and teams in their field.  The winner of the Service User/Patient Contributor of the Year Award was our founder and friend, John. John is a Mental Health First...

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Making Yourself Heard

It doesn't matter if you're getting help and support from your friends, family, doctor, or online. What is important is that you're making yourself heard. Even though there is help out there, it can be hard to know whether you're making yourself heard and getting the...

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Help With Eating Disorders

Eating disorders are not just about food, they are complex mental health conditions that tend to require medical and psychological intervention.  It's estimated that 1.25 million people in the UK are suffering from an eating disorder.  Eating disorders consist of a...

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Your Local Foodbank

If you're struggling to put food on the table, you could get help from a foodbank. Foodbanks exist to help people out of a crisis and they offer help by giving people in need at least 3 day's worth of food. Foodbanks not only offer food to those who are struggling,...

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What is Mental Health?

We often hear people talking about mental health, but it's not always clear what it is. However, learning about mental health can help you to understand other people and even yourself. What is Mental Health? When people talk about mental health they are referring to...

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Help With OCD

Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) is a very common mental health condition. Those who suffer from OCD can have compulsive behaviours and obsessive thoughts.  This condition can affect women, men, and children. Some people begin to experience symptoms early on in...

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The Clocks Go Back This Weekend

The clocks are changing this weekend which means we all get an extra hour in bed. At 2 am on Sunday, we will gain an extra hour, as such, as we lay under the duvet. While an extra hour in bed might seem ideal, the change in time can have an impact on our mental...

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Help With Schizophrenia

Schizophrenia is a long-term mental health condition that can cause a wide range of psychological symptoms. This condition is often referred to by doctors as a type of psychosis.  What this means is that the person suffering from Schizophrenia is often unable to tell...

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What is Seasonal Affective Disorder?

Seasonal Affective Disorder is thought to affect around 3 in 100 people in the UK. Many people start to experience symptoms in their 20s or 30s, however, some children can also be affected.  Also known as "Winter depression", the symptoms of SAD (Seasonal Affective...

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Do You Feel Unsafe at Home?

Domestic abuse or violence can happen to anyone. Domestic abuse includes physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. It can occur between couples or between members of your family. If you are worried that someone might notice that you have visited this page please click...

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Get Together with a Cup of Tea

Are you or someone you know struggling with mental health issues? has the lockdown left you feeling somewhat out of touch with everyone? Why not get together with a cup of tea? You can even get together virtually over a cuppa.  Did you know that talking about how you...

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World Mental Health Day

We offer mental health support for Selby and surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to...

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Worried About COVID19? We Understand!

We are all living through uncertain times. The pandemic has caused many lives to be turned upside down. At the time of writing, we're 7 months into the pandemic but we're still unsure if life will be the same again. Many of us are feeling anxious right now, and this...

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Help with Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar Disorder is a condition which affects your mood. If you have bipolar disorder you might have experienced hypomanic or manic episodes, some psychotic symptoms and some depressive episodes.  Often referred to as "Mood states", the changes in your mood can be...

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What We Do

We offer mental health support for Selby and surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to...

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Help With Depression

Most of us feel a little down from time to time, however, we tend to feel better a short while later. If you feel down most or all of the time, you could be depressed.  Not everyone thinks that depression is real. They may think that you can simply pull yourself...

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Help with Anxiety

Everyone can feel anxious from time to time. In fact, anxiety is a normal response and in some cases, it can even save our lives. However, anxiety can become a problem if it has an impact on your daily life.  Anxiety can be a problem if you: Find it hard to go about...

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Are You Getting the Support You Need?

Whether you are getting support from your doctor, your friends or online, you need to make sure you're getting the support you need.  There is support out there, however, it's not always clear how much help you should be getting.  We offer mental health support for...

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A Poem by One of Our Team About Mental Health

(Trigger warning) IF I HAD NO ARMS You would help me open the door You would help me to cook You would help me to wash You would help me to clean If I had no arms IF I HAD NO ARMS You would help me to cut my lawn You would help me to plant some flowers You would help...

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Where You Can Find Mental Health Support

Mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas If you are looking for mental health support you'll be pleased to know there are a lot of communities, groups, and charities who can help you.  However, it's not always easy knowing where to start looking. One...

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Talking to Your Doctor

Mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas Talking to your doctor about your mental health might not seem easy. We're all used to talking about our physical health, but mental health seems to be a trickier subject.  However, you don't need to worry....

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Getting The Help You Need

Mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas If you have mental health issues you can ask for help. When you ask for help you're taking the very first step towards becoming and staying well. You might not know who to turn to and you could be tempted to...

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Admitting That You’re Struggling with Mental Health

Mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas Mental health problems can creep up on you, usually starting with small changes in your feelings, behaviour and thoughts. Affecting 25% of people at any time in their life, many choose to ask for help so they...

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Where do we start?

This blog is written by me. I'm intending to write to you, just like we were sat at my old kitchen table. I would have made you a decent cup of Yorkshire tea, you know the sort. Not quite a builder's brew or creosote, but definitely the sort of tea that will cure what...

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Welcome to our blog

So here's the rub... The things I want to be writing about is what we are doing for mental health in the Selby district. How we're working to support others, not just our mission and goals and all that other business stuff... Like blue clouds and envelope pushing....

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