Most of us have times when we don’t feel very confident or very good about ourselves. Unfortunately, there are people whose self-esteem is so low that it becomes a long-term issue. Their self-esteem can be so low that it has a negative effect on their daily lives and their mental health. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

What is Self-Esteem?

The term “Self-esteem” refers to the opinion that we have of ourselves. Those who have good self-esteem feel positive about themselves and life in general. When people have good self-esteem they find it easier to deal with whatever life throws at them. 

Those who have low self-esteem find it hard to see themselves in a positive light. They see themselves and life in a more critical and negative light. In addition to this, they also find it hard to deal with whatever life throws at them.

What Can Cause Low Self-Esteem?

Low self-esteem can begin in childhood. Children everywhere are susceptible to both positive and negative messages. These messages can come from:

  • Friends
  • Parents
  • Siblings
  • Teachers
  • The media

The message that they’re just not good enough tends to stay with the person. This might be because they have found it hard to live up to their own or other people’s expectations. Other people may find that a bereavement, serious illness, or stress can cause them to start feeling low. However, personality can also be a factor. Some people are much more prone to negative thoughts, whereas others might set themselves very high standards. 

The Effect of Low Self-Esteem 

Anyone who suffers from low self-esteem or low confidence might try to avoid things that they can find challenging. Other people might avoid social situations or give up trying new things. This can help them to feel safe for a short while. Unfortunately, over a long period of time, those who avoid situations can find that their fears and doubts are reinforced. This is because they learn that avoiding things is the only way to cope. 

This link goes into detail about the theories of self-esteem, and the signs of healthy self-esteem which could prove useful. 

Where you Can Find Help for Low Self-Esteem 

You could get help from a variety of sources such as:

  • Your doctor – Speaking to your doctor could help you to get the support you need.
  • A counsellor or therapist – You may be referred to a counsellor or therapist by your doctor. Alternatively, you may need to self-refer. 
  • Your community support in your community – Local support groups can help you and offer you the chance to talk about how you’re feeling.
  • Your friends and family – Your friends and family could offer you support and be happy to help you deal with your low self-esteem. 

Whether low self-esteem is something you’ve always had or it’s something you’re experiencing for the first time, help is out there. You do not have to deal with your struggles on your own. There are many support services that can help you deal with the issues that are causing you to feel bad. You are not alone. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline. Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk