We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Valentine’s Day is one of those days that many people either love or loathe. While this day is allegedly all about romance, many of us feel pressured to be in a relationship and give or receive cards and gifts. 

In addition to this, we are bombarded with advertisements for jewellery, flowers, perfume, and chocolates. These pressures can make a lot of people upset, whether they’re single or in a relationship. 

The fact is that Valentine’s Day can be upsetting or stressful, but it does not have to be. 

 

If You Are Single 

If you are single, here’s how you can feel better on Valentine’s Day:

  • Ignore society’s pressures – We’re told that we need to be in a relationship to be happy. In addition to this, society seems to look down on single people. The fact is, there is no shame in being single. You don’t need to be dating someone or be in a relationship to enjoy Valentine’s Day. 
  • Treat Yourself – Indulge in your favourite foods, watch a film, take a long, hot bath. Do what you enjoy because it will make you feel better.
  • Plan to do something with someone – Did you know that you don’t have to be romantic on February the 14th? Why not meet with a friend or family member online and have a good chat. You could both watch the same film at the same time… while you’re talking online! If you don’t fancy doing this, do something you both enjoy doing, even if it is just catching up. 
  • Ask for Help – You can ask for help if you need to. If you start to feel down, you’ll find help is available. You can get help here, from friends and family, or from support lines. 

If You Are in a Relationship 

  • Ignore society’s pressures – You don’t need to buy your other half expensive gifts. In fact, you don’t have to do anything. Talk to your other half about what you want to do for Valentine’s Day. If you want to do something but you’re not sure what, you could always cook a meal you both love. Alternatively, you could order a takeaway, watch a movie, or go for a walk. Every couple is different, and every couple will want to do different things. 
  • Plan the day in advance – Try not to leave things until the last minute. If you and your other half want to do something, talk about what you want to do. You don’t have to do anything “romantic” if you don’t want to. 
  • Don’t compare yourself to others – Some people will shower their other half with gifts. They could spend the whole day being romantic, offering them delicious foods and elegant wines. Other people might not do anything. It does not mean that they love their partner any less. It just means they show their love in different ways.

 

Valentine’s Day can be a blessing to some, and a curse to others. The important thing to remember is the day does not define who you are.

Looking for mental health in Brayton, for example? help is out there on Valentine’s Day and all year round. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk