Domestic abuse or violence can happen to anyone. Domestic abuse includes physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. It can occur between couples or between members of your family.

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Please note, men can also be the victim of domestic abuse. Society is now more aware than men can also suffer in silence. It’s important that men who are victims also get help. 

You don’t have to wait for your situation to get very bad before you find help. If you are experiencing any kind of domestic abuse please talk to someone. 

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

 

The UK government is now offering extra support to those who need it.

The pandemic has meant that a lot of people have had to stay at home with their abuser. However, the UK states that the need to self-isolate does not apply to anyone who needs to escape domestic abuse. 

Please visit https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help for more information.

Signs of Domestic Abuse 

There are different types of abuse, however, abusing someone is all about having control and power over you. 

Below you will find some questions. If you can answer “Yes” to any of the questions you could be experiencing abuse. 

Emotional abuse

Does the person in question ever:

  • Put you down?
  • Blame you for arguments or the abuse?
  • Make unreasonable demands so they have your attention?
  • Downplay the abuse or deny that it is taking place?
  • Stop you from going to work or college?
  • Accuse you of having affairs or flirting with others?
  • Control your money or refuse to give you enough money to buy the things you need?
  • Tell you what to wear?
  • Tell you who you should see?
  • Tell you where you should go?
  • Use GPS locators to track your movements?
  • Share videos or photographs of you without your consent?
  • Track your social media profiles?

Physical Abuse 

Does the person in question ever:

  • Burn you?
  • Kick or bite you?
  • Punch, hit or slap you?
  • Push or shove you?
  • Hold you down or choke you?
  • Throw things at you?

 

Sexual Abuse 

Please note, anyone can be the victim of sexual abuse. 

Does the person in question ever: 

  • Hurt you during sex?
  • Touch you in a way that you don’t want to be touched?
  • Make unwanted demands for sex?
  • Pressure you to have sex?
  • Pressure you to have unsafe sex? 

If someone has sex with you when you don’t want them to, this is known as rape. Men and women can be victims of rape and so can children. 

 

Threats and Intimidation

Does the person in question ever:

  • Destroy any of your belongings?
  • Follow or harass you?
  • Threaten to hurt you?
  • Threaten to kill you?
  • Read your letters, texts or emails?
  • Threaten to kill themselves?
  • Threaten to kill your children?
  • Invade your personal space?
  • Stand over you?

If You Leave

If you choose to leave your abusive relationship you might have realised you are not alone. You might have also realised that the abuse is not your fault. 

Try to get help from various organisations such as the Men’s Advice Line, Women’s Aid, Refuge for Women, or Galop (For LGBTQ+)

If you choose to leave, please make sure you’re careful who you tell. It is absolutely vital that your partner/family member does not find out where you’ll be staying.

 

If you are worried that someone might notice that you have visited this page please click here to discover how you can hide your online history. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk