From time to time, we have all found ourselves talking to someone we find intimidating. Whether the person we’re talking to is more intelligent, more attractive, or more talented than us, it’s normal to feel intimidated. 

We usually find ourselves worrying that this person will make a judgement about us and reject or think less of us. While situations such as these can be hard, it’s ok to struggle with them.

It’s natural for us to care what other people think of us. Especially if we respect them or we’re attracted to them. Try not to avoid situations like this or beat yourself up about feeling this way. Most people feel like intimidated by others from time to time. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Here are some tips that could prove to be useful the next time you speak to someone intimidating: 

Change your Inner Voice 

If you have negative inner talk, try to change it. Remind yourself about what you’re good at or those things you’re getting better at. When you have a more positive mindset you’ll feel better about talking to people you find intimidating. 

Think About What You’re Going to Say 

If you can, try to think about what you’re going to say. Knowing exactly what to say or at least having a good idea about it can reduce your anxiety. You don’t need to come up with a script, just have an idea. 

Remember They Are Human Too

Remember that the person you’re speaking to is human. They can feel intimidated, anxious, scared, and all the emotions you feel. They may even be getting help from Barlby mental health support, for example.

You can never be completely aware of what another person is feeling. Being kind, starting the conversation with a smile, and being a good listener can help them to relax. When you see that they have relaxed, it can make you feel better. Don’t forget, there’s always the chance that they are intimidated by you. 

Think About Your Contribution to the Conversation

When you’re speaking to someone who you find intimidating, think about what your strengths are. Are you a good speaker? perhaps you’re naturally funny, or you’re very knowledgeable about something. 

Think about how you add value to the conversation. 

Accept That You Feel Uncomfortable 

Did you know that accepting you feel uncomfortable is better than trying to make yourself feel better? If you accept how you’re feeling, you’re more likely to tolerate your anxiety. If you try to get rid of your anxiety you could make yourself feel more anxious. 

We’ve all spoken to someone who seems intimidating, for whatever reason. However, the above tips can help you to feel more relaxed and prepared. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk