We introverts often dread small talk. We can worry that we’ll run out of things to say or that we’ll be awkward or boring. It can be hard to avoid small talk in today’s world. We are all encouraged to be more sociable, even if it is at a safe distance. However, it is possible to use small talk without it being painful, you just need to know how. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer, you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Reduce Your Anxiety

Reduce your anxiety by staying positive and rational. Tell yourself that your anxiety stems from you and not the situation. You can also plan to reward yourself with a quiet night in once the event is over. 

Have a Purpose

Give your conversations a purpose. While small talk might feel useless, it can help to build a relationship with someone.

Be Curious

Ask people how they are, how their weekend was, and be genuinely interested. Offer a thoughtful response to what they say. If you show you’re interested the person will be more likely to think of you in a positive light.

Make the Conversation Interesting

If someone asks you how you are, instead of saying “Good, thanks”, respond with something like “Oh, I’m good, thank you. It’s my first time in this city, I’m looking forward to seeing a show tomorrow”. Adding a bit of interest to the conversation will make the other person more relaxed which could make you more relaxed. 

Add Depth to the Conversation

Let’s imagine you meet someone for the first time and they tell you what they do. You could add depth by saying “What made you choose that type of work?”, for example. If you’ve just been to a meeting and you’re talking with your fellow attendees, you could ask “What did you think of the meeting?”

Recognise Social Cues

If the other person seems to be less interested in the conversation, try switching the topic. Compliment them on what they’re wearing, talk about something else, or simply wrap up the conversation.

Be Kind to Yourself

It’s ok to be an introvert, it’s ok to struggle with social events. Just be kind to yourself. Try not to play conversations over and over in your head. Take a few minutes to go over the conversation, reflect on it, and let it go. Remember, if you want to be successful at something, you need to be prepared to fail at it a few times. 

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer, you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk