Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. Physical, sexual, and mental harassment are all forms of domestic violence. It can happen between couples or among family members.

If you’re concerned that your online history will be discovered, please click here to learn how to conceal your online history.

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

You don’t have to wait for things to get really bad before seeking assistance. Please seek assistance if you are a victim of domestic violence.

The UK government is also providing additional assistance to those who need it.

Because of the pandemic, many families have been forced to sit at home with their abuser. If you need to flee domestic violence, according to UK law, you don’t need to self-isolate. 

Please visit https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help for more information.

Domestic Violence Signs

Abuse can take many forms, but it all boils down to having power and influence over another person.

You’ll find few questions below. If you answer “yes” to some of them, you might be a victim of domestic violence. 

Emotional Abuse 

Does the abuser: 

  • Put you down?
  • Blame you for the squabbles or the abuse?
  • Make irrational requests in order to get your attention?
  • Minimise the violence or any dispute that occurs?
  • Prevent you from getting to work or school?
  • Accuse you of having extramarital affairs or flirting with others?
  • Control your finances or fail to provide you with sufficient funds to purchase the items you require?

  • Tell you what to wear?
  • Tell you who you can spend time with?
  • Tell you where you can go?
  • Use GPS trackers to keep track of your whereabouts?
  • Without your permission, share videos or photographs of you?
  • Keep track of your social media profiles?

Physical Abuse

Does the abuser: 

  • Kick, bite, slap, punch, burn, shove, or push you?
  • Hold you down and/or choke you?
  • Throw things at you?

Sexual Abuse

Please keep in mind that sexual abuse can happen to anybody.

Does the abuser: 

  • Hurt you during sex?
  • Touched you where you don’t want to be touched?
  • Make obnoxious sex demands?
  • Pressure you to have sex?
  • Tell you to engage in risky sexual behaviour?

Rape occurs when someone has sex with you when you don’t want them to. Rape can affect both men and women, as well as children.

Intimidation and Threats

Does the abuser: 

  • Damage your possessions?
  • Followed or harass you?
  • Threaten you with harm?
  • Threaten to kill you?
  • Read all of your letters, messages, or emails?
  • Threaten to kill themselves? 
  • Threaten to murder your children?
  • Invade your privacy
  • Stand over you?

If You Decide to Leave

It’s quite possible that you’ve realised that the abuse you’re receiving isn’t your fault.

Try to get help from various organisations such as the Men’s Advice Line,  Refuge for Women, Women’s Aid, or Galop (For LGBTQ+)

If you decide to leave, please be cautious about who you tell. It is important that neither your partner nor your family learns where you will be living.

If you’re concerned that your online history will be discovered, please click here to learn how to conceal your online history.

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk