Narcissistic personality disorder is a disorder whereby someone has an inflated opinion of themselves. In addition to this, they have often have an intense desire or need for the attention and admiration of other people. 

Those with this personality disorder tend to be disappointed or unhappy when they are not praised the way they think they should be. They can also be upset if they are not given any special favours, which they think they deserve. 

Other people may find those with this personality disorder to be conceited and they might not like spending time with them. 

Unfortunately, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can cause problems in relationships, at school, or at work. The good news is that with some lifestyle improvements and talking therapy, this disorder can be managed. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

NPD and Personality Traits

People with Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can be described as being:

  • Demanding
  • Self-centred
  • Arrogant

They could have very high self-esteem. They may even believe that they are special or superior to others. However, when their need for admiration or praise is not met, they can react quite badly. 

Those with NPD can exaggerate their accomplishments and talents while belittling other people. They may also be preoccupied with beauty, success, and power. Some people with NPD might engage in behaviours such as risky sex or gambling. 

Please note, those who have good self-confidence might not have NPD. This is because those who have self-confidence can be quite humble. People with NPD are very rarely humble. In fact, they tend to think they are better than everyone. 

(This link explains how to set healthy boundaries with someone who has NPD.)

The Causes of NPD

The causes of narcissistic personality disorder aren’t fully understood. However, it is thought that it might be genetic. In addition to this, it could be caused by some environmental factors such as:

  • Childhood neglect or abuse
  • Cultural influences
  • Excessive pampering by a parent 
  • Sexual promiscuity 
  • Parent’s unrealistic expectations

Symptoms of NPD

NPD tends to appear in early adulthood. However, those with this disorder might not think they have a problem. This is because the mere suggestion of them having a problem goes against what they think about themselves. 

You might have NPD if you:

  • Are considered boastful and pretentious, causing other people to avoid you 
  • Have unfulfilling relationships
  • Become angry, confused, and unhappy when things fail to go your way 
  • Have ongoing issues with alcohol, drugs, finances, relationships, school, or work

If you think you have NPD, please speak to your doctor. They can work with you to help you understand whether you have this disorder and whether you need treatment. 

Treatment for NPD

Treatment for NPD usually involves talking therapy. This type of therapy can help you to:

  • Maintain personal relationships
  • Deal with self-esteem issues 
  • Set realistic goals 
  • Recognise your strengths so you can tolerate failure or criticism 
  • Manage and understand your feelings
  • Improve relationships with peers and co-workers

It can be hard to change personality traits. This is why you might need years of therapy. It’s important that you stick with the therapy as you’ll start to see improvements in your relationships.

Try to stay motivated, and try to remember that your hard work can help to repair damaged relationships. This can make your life better. 

There is support in Barlby, Selby, and the surrounding areas. Please speak to your doctor or a mental health professional if you think you have NPD. 

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk