We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer, you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Remember the time you had a really in-depth conversation with a stranger at a busy bus stop? If you don’t, you won’t be alone. Having an in-depth conversation can be awkward. We usually feel pressured to say something to someone, but there isn’t always the time to have an in-depth conversation. Welcome to the world of small talk! 

 

A psychologist at the University of Arizona says that small talk can be defined on the basis of how much information is exchanged between you and the stranger. If you know no more about the stranger than you did before, you indulged in small talk. 

Small talk can fill the silence, but it can feel awkward and even seem pointless. So how can you have more meaningful conversations? Here’s how: 

  • Understand that small talk is necessary – Small talk is necessary to set the scene and establish some rapport.
  • Ask good questions – Try asking the other person “How did that feel?” or “What was that like?”. Your question will ellicit a much better response. There are some great questions on page 15 of this paper
  • Pay attention to the answers – Many people don’t actively listen. Instead, they wait for their turn to speak. Listening can be easy if you allow yourself to get used to it. When you listen, you learn more about the other person and you have more meaningful conversations. 

  • Share something about yourself – When you share something about yourself even the smallest thing, it helps the other person to feel close to you. it also encourages the other person to share something with you. 
  • Be ready to learn – If you know that you’re going to meet someone or a group of people, be ready to learn about them, the work they do, or a specific topic you know they’re interested in. This takes some open-mindedness and humility, but it can help you to learn more about them. 
  • Realise you need to give and take – The art of a meaningful conversation is give and take. If you are willing to listen to the other person and contribute to the conversation it’s likely to be much more meaningful. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer, you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk