When your emotions seem to be too overwhelming and painful, it is possible for you to gain control of them. Everyone has strong emotional reactions to things from time to time and they can be hard to deal with. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer, you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

The good news is you can gain control over your emotions in a healthy way. 

Use paced breathing

When you exhale, make sure it’s longer than your inhale. When you do this, you trigger the parasympathetic nervous system. When this happens, you start to feel a little calmer and your emotions may seem more manageable. As you inhale, count in your head how long the inhale is. When exhaling, count at the same pace, ensuring your exhale is longer. 

Validate your emotions

We often judge ourselves for feeling the way we do. If you’re feeling angry, you might also feel guilty for feeling angry. If you have feelings that you don’t think you should feel, try to accept them. Tell yourself that it’s ok to feel the way you do. Tell yourself why you feel that emotion. Is it because of the environment you grew up in? has someone wronged you? Tell yourself that you understand why you feel the way you do. Explain the situation to yourself to help you find validation.

Reduce the intensity

Emotions appear for a reason. However, when they feel intense they can occasionally prevent you from getting on with your day. As soon as you have validated your emotions, it’s time for you to reduce their intensity. You can do this by understanding what the emotion is making you want to do. When you understand this, you need to reduce the intensity by doing the opposite. For example, If you’re feeling anxious about going shopping, your emotions are telling you not to go. However, doing the opposite can help you to gradually feel better. 

If you’re feeling low and you don’t want to do anything, do the opposite. Go for a walk, clean your house, spend time with a friend. By doing the opposite, you can help to reduce the intensity of the emotions. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer, you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk