When someone who was closed to you has died, it’s completely natural to feel sad, worried, or depressed. There is no right way to feel, and everyone reacts differently. However, some people can find it hard to cope with grief and loss. The good news is there is support out there. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

What Exactly is Grief?

When you lose someone you know, it can be hard. Whether you’ve lost a friend, relative, or even a pet, you could feel a wide range of emotions. It’s perfectly normal to experience grief. Grief isn’t just an emotional response, it’s also a mental, social, and physical response.

You could be grieving because:

  • A family member has died
  • A friend or someone you know has died 
  • A pet has died or is lost
  • Someone you know took their own life 
  • Someone close to you is seriously ill
  • A relationship has changed 
  • Someone close to you moved away or won’t be in your life quite as much 

Give yourself the time and space you need to grieve. It can take time to come to terms with death or someone not being in your life anymore or quite as much.  

How We Grieve 

Everyone deals with grief differently. Some people can feel depressed, sad, or angry. Some people might even be relieved or not feel anything at all. 

Different cultures and people’s beliefs can have an impact on how they deal with grief. Your local community or your own family might deal with grief in a different way to others. We all have our own ways of dealing with grief. There is no right or wrong way to deal with it. Some people might even have delayed grief, which means they won’t feel anything for a while. Again, this is perfectly normal. 

Feelings Associated with Grief 

You might experience some of the following feelings if you’re dealing with grief and loss:

  • Abandonment
  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Concern about your health or that of others
  • Depression
  • Fear
  • Guilt
  • Numbness (Or nothing)
  • Panic
  • Relief
  • Sadness
  • Shock

Working Through Grief

It can take time for everyone to deal with grief. You could be surprised to feel sad when you’re not expecting to feel this emotion. This is normal, and most of us can work through grief with the support of others. 

If you are struggling with grief or you’re finding life hard, please talk to someone. Tell someone you can trust such as a friend or a family member. You can also talk to your GP and ask for support. There’s grief support in Barlby and the surrounding areas, so please ask for help if you’re struggling. 

It is perfectly normal to feel sad or even guilty. If you stop feeling sad or guilty, please know that it does not mean you don’t care. You can move on with your life. It’s ok to do this and it does not mean that you don’t care about the person you have lost or are grieving for. 

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.