We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Do you consider yourself to be a good listener? Do you often find it hard to listen to people? According to a psychologist, listening is simple. The trick is to be genuinely interested in the person talking

Refraining from being judgemental is also ideal.

It can be hard to not judge someone, but placing your judgements to one side can help them to open up to you. 

If someone you don’t know is talking to you, start with a compliment or a question. Do the same with someone you know. 

Say Something Positive 

One of the best ways to make any relationship last is to begin every conversation by saying something that’s genuine and positive. However, if you’re speaking to someone who is upset, it can be hard to say something positive. In cases such as this, you could use a trick that some therapists use. This trick is called “The power of silence”. In other words, you listen, you remain calm by slowly breathing in through your nose and out your mouth.

No one will know that you’re breathing this way, but it will keep you calm. You will look more relaxed and open to the conversation. When you’re calm, it’s likely that the other person will become calm. 

Never Say “I Know How You Feel”

Never say to someone “I know how you feel”. No one really knows how the other person might feel. This is because we don’t know how they feel, and it can undermine what they are trying to tell you. 

Instead, why not say “Could you explain that so I can understand a little more about what you are trying to tell me?” or “I’d like to understand a little more about you.”

Don’t tell the person how you are feeling as they won’t feel very listened to. Just listen.

When someone feels like they have been listened to they feel more valued and this can be wonderful for their self-esteem. 

 

We offer mental health support in Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk