We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Studies have shown that we much prefer to experience good and bad events at the same time as our friends. Experts think that this is because it increases our feelings of connection with other people. 

One study involved students who chose to receive a friendly message on the same day as one of their friends. Another study showed that participants would rather receive money or a tax bill on the same day as a friend, or slightly before or after their friend.

However, a final study showed that we would prefer to experience extreme losses such as crashing a car or getting divorced on a different day from a friend. The results of this study showed that there’s a limit in our capacity to deal with losses. Extreme losses could, therefore, be so much harder to handle.

When it comes to experiencing very upsetting events on the same day, chances are that a friend who is also distressed won’t be able to help us deal with our feelings. 

There are other interpretations of the study’s results. Let’s imagine that you won a lot of money. You might worry that disclosing your win to a friend could make them jealous. Alternatively, you might even start to feel guilty about your good fortune. It might even be better if you and your friend won a smaller amount of money on the same day. This would let you both enjoy the win together. 

There are thought to be practical reasons why we like to share pleasant events with others. This is because it’s thought that we underestimate just how happy these events will make us if we experience them on our own. However, experiencing the same thing with a friend can be more uplifting and increase the social connection between us. 

We offer mental health support for Selby, Barlby, and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk