Gaslighting is a type of psychological and emotional abuse. It consists of someone using behavioural and verbal tricks to make sure someone else feels as if they cannot trust their own judgement. It can also result in someone feeling that they’re losing their mind. Gaslighting occurs because the abuser wants to have control over them.

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

How You Can Spot a Gaslighter 

Gaslighters feel the need to be in control and have power. They need to be right about everything and they always need to be in charge. Gaslighters will make judgements about other people, criticise them, blame them for everything, intimidate them, deny they have responsibility for their actions while being verbally abusive. 

Some people are so good at manipulating others that what they’re doing might not be noticed at first. However, when the victim starts to question their own judgement, this is when the gaslighter has been successful. 

Why People Behave This Way 

Gaslighters behave as they do so that they can appear to be blameless, while they cause confusion, make you weaker, and create a lot of chaos. They behave this way most of the time so that you begin to question yourself (including your identity) and your self-esteem. 

Another reason why gaslighters behave the way they do is because they might have been raised by a gaslighter.  These behaviours were learned as a means of surviving in their chaotic world. 

Learn how you can protect yourself from a gaslighter here.

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday. Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk