We all have to deal with failure at some point in our lives. However, how we respond to that failure is what matters. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Failure can get a lot of people down, but it can also help them to consider what they would do differently next time. But how can you deal with failure? let’s take a look at 5 ways you can deal with it so it’s less likely to harm your mental health:

1 – Be Kind to Yourself

Practising self-compassion means you’re non-judgemental and kind towards yourself, even when you fail.

Studies have shown that when students have more self-compassion after failing an exam, they study harder for future exams.

Other studies have shown that being kind to yourself when feeling like you have failed is linked to better mental health. 

 2 – Stay Away From Social Perfectionism 

If you think other people expect you to be perfect and will judge you if you fail, you might be influenced by social perfectionism. People who are influenced by this are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, and anger.

Try not to think about how people might judge you if you fail at something. 

3 – Over-Confidence and Being Wrong 

If you are over-confident it’s likely that you will try less hard at things. This over-confidence can result in you making more mistakes. However, it might not be completely responsible for your failure. 

There is evidence to show that if you’re wrong about something, you’re more likely to remember the correct answer or the correct way of doing things next time. Try not to beat yourself up about being wrong. Instead, learn from it. You’re more likely to succeed next time. 

4 – Try Not to Take Failure Too Personally 

Recent studies were carried out on nearly 1,700 people. The study showed that when they received feedback on what they had done wrong, they were less likely to get things right in the future. The theory behind this was that the feedback could have had a negative impact on their self-image. However, when some participants heard about other people’s failures their self-image was less likely to be affected. 

Trying not to take failure too personally can help you to learn from it.

5 – Embrace Your Productive Failure

A 2019 experiment showed that those who were given a task to carry out without knowing all of the instructions often failed. The experiment also showed that those who learned from their failures were more likely to do better in future tasks. For example, people who buy flat-pack furniture and try to build it without reading the instructions will fail more times than those who read the instructions. However, they will learn as they go and they’re likely to do better next time. 

Failures, whether they are big or small can make people feel bad. They can have a very negative impact on mental health. If you feel as if you have failed at something, there is mental health support available. If being kind to yourself does not work, asking for help could be the way forward. 

 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk