We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

The thought of confrontation can cause a lot of people to feel anxious and fearful. It doesn’t matter what the confrontation is about, many people would rather put it off or avoid it completely. 

We may even picture the confrontation and worry about what the other person might say. We might worry that we cannot control how we feel, or that we make a fool of ourselves. 

If you were taught not to bother people or become a burden to others, you could deliberately choose to avoid confrontation. However, this only provides you with temporary relief from the anxiety and you could ultimately be hurting yourself. In other words, you are telling yourself that you should not stand up for yourself. 

Confrontation Isn’t Always Negative 

Did you know that confrontation does not always have to be negative? It can, be a win-win situation or an honest conversation that expresses concern or makes you and the other person closer. 

Focus on Your Words

Did you know that you have every right to express how you feel, what you want, and what you need? try not to worry too much about how your words will be received. Instead, focus on what you want to say. 

You might need to clarify how you’re feeling before the conversation begins. Think about how you feel and make a note of these feelings. By writing your feelings down you will automatically get a lot more clarity on the issue at hand. 

A Collaboration Not a Competition 

While many people think that confrontation has to be a “them versus me” issue, it can also be a way to become united against whatever the issue is. For example, rather than saying “You never do any housework”, you could say “Could you help me with the housework, please?”. This is a lot less confrontational and it can help you and the other person feel a bit more like a team. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm, 365 days of the year.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk