Everyone gets angry from time to time, and we all have different reasons for being angry. Anger is usually attributed to external events, however, it actually emerges from 3 different but interacting factors: A provocation, your interpretation of what provoked you, and your mood at the time. Before you even feel angry you interpret the thing that provoked you. In other words, you decide what that provocation means to you.  

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer, you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

What To Do With Your Anger 

It is possible to understand your anger and be angry in a healthy way:

Should you be angry? – When evaluating the situation that has made you angry, consider if you have been treated unfairly or wronged. Some people find that analysing the situation makes them rethink their response. Alternatively, they could also realise that their anger was justified. 

What does the anger tell you? – If your anger is justified, try to consider why you’re feeling this way. Doing this can help you to get out of your current situation by dealing with the anxiety that you’re feeling about work, for example. 

What does it tell you about yourself? – When you evaluate your anger, you learn more about yourself. Ask why you are angry about your colleague always being late. Perhaps you’re angry because their lateness means you have more work to do or you cannot meet your deadline. Thinking about your anger can help you to decide what to do next. 

How to Prevent Anger

If you find that you’re angry quite often, you could try some anger management techniques. For example, you could breathe deeply and try to relax your muscles. These methods can help to decrease your unwanted physiological and emotional arousal. 

Using Anger Productively 

Anger can be a useful tool. It can give you the energy you need to solve your problem. However, if you allow your anger to blow up, it can hurt you and those around you. There isn’t a right thing to do when you’re angry. Sometimes it can be really helpful to hold your anger in if expressing how you feel can be unsafe or risky. However, suppressing your anger can have physical and mental consequences if you do it too much.

One of the best things you can do is to deal with the anger based on the situation. Being able to communicate that you’re angry in a productive way is a hugely important skill. It can be hard to stay professional when you’re angry, but it listening to others who have heard that you’re angry can be very valuable to you. 

We offer mental health support for Selby and the surrounding areas. Why not give us a call? Our phone line is open from 7 pm – 10 pm on weekdays and all day Saturday and Sunday.

Call us on (01757) 642 399. If you call before our phone lines are open and we cannot answer, you will be diverted to an NHS Helpline.

Interested in helping those who are struggling with their mental health? We offer Mental Health First Aid training in Selby. Contact us at info@communitea.org.uk